Funny that you call it "distraction" because after my husband died (tomorrow, April 15th is 25 years), when I would go out with friends, do my volunteer work, play Mah Jongg, bridge or canasta, or do some writing, I would forget my troubles temporarily. When my friend's daughter was dying, I encouraged her to do activities that made her happy & to this day she tells everyone, "Susan calls it HEALTHY DISTRACTIONS".
I agree. A healthy distraction takes you away from negative ruminations. I think that is why after funerals there is a wake for Christians and sitting shiva (sp) for the Jewish faith. Being preoccupied with visitors, friends and relatives, helps the grieving process and having something to do. You would know having been through it too many times.
Funny that you call it "distraction" because after my husband died (tomorrow, April 15th is 25 years), when I would go out with friends, do my volunteer work, play Mah Jongg, bridge or canasta, or do some writing, I would forget my troubles temporarily. When my friend's daughter was dying, I encouraged her to do activities that made her happy & to this day she tells everyone, "Susan calls it HEALTHY DISTRACTIONS".
I agree. A healthy distraction takes you away from negative ruminations. I think that is why after funerals there is a wake for Christians and sitting shiva (sp) for the Jewish faith. Being preoccupied with visitors, friends and relatives, helps the grieving process and having something to do. You would know having been through it too many times.
Susan, I'll get back to you. You've been through a lot.